A Trend To Try: Honesty ♥

FANTASTIC POST!!!!!

I love every bit of it and I totally feel the same way!

I have started to say no to things that are toxic to me or put limits on things I'm 'dreading'.

I always try to tell the truth (there's a nice way to do it no matter what situation you're in - it's only bad when someone doesn't want to hear it).

I just think life can only be lived once (well this one anyway if you believe in reincarnation) and we shouldn't waste it pretending we haven't rocked out to Miley Cyrus occasionally!!

I hate pretentious music "loving" types. I like ALL genres. Sure even my own taste makes me cringe occasionally but I'll always admit to it with a laugh.

Again, great post - something I really needed to read right now :)

Trisha – And so are YOU! Thank-you so much for your lovely comment!

Ellie Di – I DEFINITELY hear what you’re saying, and understand that some people MAY use the whole ‘’selfish’’ line, but my honest belief is that as long as you’re a kind, respectful person and not hurting anyone else with your intentions, why should anything else matter?! I tend to be a bit wary of people who label someone else’s decisions as ‘’selfish’; I just can’t help but wonder why they might think they’re that way in the first place. Is it because they disagree with someone else’s choice, and are hoping by calling the other person selfish that they’ll somehow change their decision? Is it because they don’t understand how another person feels or what they’re trying to say and maybe resent them for being as free as they are and choosing to live their life how they want? I don’t know, but if those the reasons why, I could live with being labelled as selfish by someone and would probably be better off without them anyway!

Ben – You’re welcome! And gosh, a MALE commenter! How exciting! I think that’s a first! (If it’s not and someone else is feeling very indignant and unappreciated right now, I’m sorry!)

Rachael – They are, and good on you for choosing to ignore the ones who aren’t! And also, YES! He so was.

Luana – Oh, jeez. Sometimes I think it’s almost impossible to win when it comes to discussing your career/ambitions with some people, which is probably one of the reasons why I’ve relinquished my care over their opinions now! When I was studying Media & Communications/Journalism last year and people would ask what I was doing, I would usually get ‘’pft! You want to be a writer? Can you even WRITE? Don’t you know that it’s impossible to find a job in that industry and even if you do, writers don’t get paid ANYTHING?!’’ Then when I graduated and actually found a job in copywriting, I encountered ‘’copywriting? What? What the heck is that?’’ Oh, and don’t even get me STARTED on the amount of people who say ‘’you have a blog? What’s that? What’s the point of having a blog?’’ Everyone has their own opinion on something and at the end of the day, if we chose to listen to every single one of them and act accordingly, we probably wouldn’t even leave the house! We’d be anxious, confused wrecks!

Bree – Haha! Well, as far as sayings go, it’s not a bad one to adopt! ;D

''Who cares'' = my new favorite saying.

YES! Sometimes I tell people about my plans, about psychology and art and all these things I'm interested in and they just stare at me with a blank face. "But that won't give you enough earnings" they'll say. And you know what? I couldn't care less! I am honest, and I am honest with myself first. Also Britney's on my iPod as well ;)

Well said! As I live a very "non-traditional/conforming" lifestyle in that I am disabled, at home and working freelance I am constantly feeling like I have to explain myself, even defend myself, from people who want me in a 9 to 5 living on my own life. I can't do it - plain and simple. I've been fortunate that I have a family, friends and now a boyfriend who accept it all and me :) those are the people worth keeping!

pssst ~ that cute boy was probably a "womanizer" ;)

omg, i loved this. so true. be who you want to be. not what others feel you should be. thanks a bunch!

I feel overall that I'm very honest with myself about who I am and what I feel, but that I have trouble making the leap into the outer world. Like I feel bad for asserting my "selfish" needs and wants on others. And I've got reason to be afraid; I've been smacked down more than once by people I thought I could trust with that expression. It's a bit harder than just doing it for a lot of people for that exact reason.

And sometimes, being honest means having to deal with, feel, or say some negative stuff. I think that's okay, as long as we don't get bogged down in it. The hardest part is just letting the bad stuff go without tangling our sense of self in it. If we can be honest with ourselves and with others AND let the negative pass through us without sticking, that's the big enchilada right there.

Aww, you're awesome. I agree with everything you said. Life is so much better when you stop being the person 'society' wants you to be and instead focus on being yourself.

Good stuff!

Julie - Exactly! And GOOD ON YOU!

Anisha - Aw, thank-you so much! I love you for reading this and adding your own thoughts to it! (Which, by the way, I completely agree with. I can't stand when people try and tell someone else how they should live their life or what they should and shouldn't do - I figure that as long as someone isn't hurting anybody else, they should be allowed to live however they want - after all, it's their life!)

The Crafty Currant - Firstly, that's BRILLIANT! Secondly, your comment about how we're the only ones who lose out if we fail to be ourselves is so very, very true.

R - Wow. Thank-you ENORMOUSLY for your comment; it would not be an exaggeration to say that it absolutely made my night! Congratulations on all the amazing progress that you've made, and for your very kind words.

Cafe Fashionista - Thank-you!

As they say, honesty is the best policy. This is such a fabulous post. I expect people to be as honest with me as I am with them - and that is 100%! :)

I love you Corrine. For years I suffered self esteem issues and was too afraid of what other people thought to live how I wanted to. I didn't wear dresses because I thought they made me look too fat. I didn't wear sleeveless tops because I was scared people would make fun of my arms. I wouldn't go out because I didn't think that I was interesting or cool enough to talk to. In short, I hated myself. It was such a waste of time. I'm now in my early thirties and I will never get back that time that I spent caring about what everyone (and usually strangers) thought about me. Now I do exactly what I want and am happier than I've ever been. Some people might call it being selfish but I don't care and would encourage anyone who would listen to do the same thing. Thanks for being such an honest person, and for sharing your thoughts with the world.

CLAP CLAP CLAP CLAP ... I really get this!!! I know a whole set of people (I don't particularly call them friends because just accept me) who just don't understand the quirky things I do and use to laugh and tease me about them but I figured if I didn't seek out these pleasures for myself then no one would do them for me and in the end I would be the only one to lose out. But now Im in full flow of my new found hobbies, I get the same people commenting on my facebook about they wish they could do what I was doing coz it sound like I'm always having fun!! Well I am, thanks!!

Oh Corrine, how I love you for this! It's exactly what I've been practicing for close to two years now.

I'm so tired of what people think is acceptable to wear to clubs when I go out around here, or how I dress up for class. After all it's me who's wearing the stuff, not them, right?

And my studies - my parents always wanted for me to make a bunch of money. It's hard for them to accept that I've decided to just go after. What I really want to do, but after all, I have to go to classes and put up with the reading and writing.

I so did honesty today! I totally called our student government on their unfairness and got a lot of positive response both from people outside the student council and my classmates. It was awesome.

I'm not afraid of being honest, I'm blunt and I say what I think when I think it.

We are all equal and we should not be afraid to say what we think.

Ayesha - HOORAY! That's excellent! I was actually discussing this very subject with two of my best friends last night, and we were all in complete agreement on it - seriously, what's the point of living a life that you're not completely happy with, doing something that bores you or yeah, spending time with people who drain you or don't make you feel good or excited to be alive?! I just don't want to do it anymore! Why should anyone have to?!

Here here! I've been making a huge effort to chop negative people out of my life. If someone doesn't make me feel "good" to be around (read: energy suckers), I don't feel bad for not wanting to be around them anymore.